Yet if I speak, my pain is not relieved; and if I refrain, it does not go away.

Job 16:1-22
I have heard many things like these; you are miserable comforters, all of you!
3 Will your long-winded speeches never end? What ails you that you keep on arguing?
I also could speak like you, if you were in my place; I could make fine speeches against you and shake my head at you. But my mouth would encourage you; comfort from my lips would bring you relief.
Yet if I speak, my pain is not relieved; and if I refrain, it does not go away.
Surely, God, you have worn me out;  you have devastated my entire household.
8 You have shriveled me up—and it has become a witness;  my gauntness rises up and testifies against me. God assails me and tears me in his anger and gnashes his teeth at me; my opponent fastens on me his piercing eyes. People open their mouths to jeer at me; they strike my cheek in scorn and unite together against me.
“Earth, do not cover my blood; may my cry never be laid to rest! Even now my witness is in heaven; my advocate is on high. My intercessor is my friend as my eyes pour out tears to God; on behalf of a man he pleads with God as one pleads for a friend. “Only a few years will pass before I take the path of no return.
It is cold comfort his friends have to give. How easy for them to talk when it is Job who bears the pain. Like many since their silent sympathy helped more than their well-meaning words.
Why?
Job's friends were miserable comforters, It is easy to say but who can understand the pain of the suffering.
Job's friend lack sympathy, if they keep silent will be better than said such words.
Job knew that it is the Lord has worn him out, all these are allowed by the Lord. So Job asked he may defense by himself with the Lord before he leaves this world.
How?
Don't be a miserable comforter, but be a sympathy comforter with love and silent words.